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When I get anger, I wish to control and find a calm way for saying all the things that just run out of my mouth, which doesn't mean that they aren't true. But the way is so wrong 😔. I sad a hundred times that next time I would say the things more calm and without yelling 😔

Thank God for this video !

Why should I learn to not take personally? My partner says mean things to me and it’s cool because he didn’t mean it 😂😂 bro stop NOW

What is a lashing out trigger for me is when others are supposed to be taking care of my mental health they are not doing it & they threaten retaliation or retaliate by taking away my support system which is gaslighting. Also my boss & landlord (same person) telling me not to talk about somethings that make me feel very unsafe where I live & work. I said something & now I’m afraid he will fire me & I’ll lose my medical insurance & im afraid of being evicted. These people shouldn’t be in my life. But due to my disabilities & circumstances I am trapped. The mental health program won’t let me leave.

This video is still helping people like me. Blessings to you two

Some people enter relationships to manipulate and use others. Some people are professional victims that cause savior relationship. It’s a set up 😢they never cared about you.

Nice video sir

I wish my parents watched this video. I wouldve been waayy better off. I will be the best dad I can ever be.

Hi Dr christian conte hi I have alot of anger issues when someone tell on me if it not true I get mad at her

So what you’re saying is you can’t be human is what you’re saying you’re not allowed to be a human. This is all a scam to make money off of people. Y’all should be ashamed. You’re just terrorist trafficking people.

These tips were very helpful. As someone who struggles with Road Rage and Anxiety, it’s hard not to take things personally. After watching this video I’m gonna put these into practice, although I know it’s gonna take some time.lol

- [0:00] 🗣 "Don't yell at people" and "You need to calm down" are ineffective responses to anger. - [2:02] 🛑 Don't take angry outbursts personally; recognize they're about the individual's emotions, not you. - [3:35] 💔 Understand that anger often stems from underlying hurt and pain. - [5:11] 🤝 Approach angry individuals with empathy and offer to be a safe space for them to express their feelings.

- [0:17] 🧠 The outside world doesn't inherently make us angry; our view of it does. - [1:41] 🏃‍♂ Aligning expectations with reality helps handle life's disappointments better.

Do people always do the best they can. Or do they do what they want. That is different, that is self indulgence, isn’t it? It’s like a diet, baked chicken with veg would be the best choice, but the lasagna sounds so good I went with that. Also, choices. Are often made with self delusional starting points such as the person wants to protect the other person from truth. I like your asymmetrical and hindsight bias concepts and will try and bring them into my thinking patterns in an effort to be more humble and curb my lifelong judgmental attitude. I spent 32 years in Human Resources, a judgmental attitude nightmare. I have some work to do.

My anger has been running my life way too long. Im scared it's going to kill me one day... I'm glad I found this video...

Dog owners are amongst the most emotionally immature people I've ever encountered. They start a mob/hate campaign against anyone who break their delusional beliefs they attatch to their dogs.

Is the desire for safety a need or a want

Hi Dr this is Jessica can I have learn step of controlling anger toward other

My issue is that I am the one that everyone asks for help. It use to be a point of pride, made me feel like a good person. Know it makes me furious. Everyone around me can't help me back. It's not that they won't, it's that they can't and I don't feel good about helping ANYONE anymore

All u control is ur thoughts and actions Why Don't They Take There Own Anger and Issues With There EGO Elsewhere ok 2Joke But why b personal we R not important and even them who is aint would u agree something to practice

Whats the best way in not taking things personally only thing i can think of empathy

I like u boss stumbled across U looking at u tube videos I can relate to what u say I have mental health issues and as part of my problem anger management and No1 really taught me a better way I kinda learnt on my own and now with new neighbours and pet fish who get spooked by anything can't do wot I used to do have invested in camping and I mostly follow bushcraft videos and do some of this myself but to get somewhere i need a vechile and bein a leisure driver I'd believe I'm a considerate driver what I find hard is public transport wonder if there's an answer for that the only way I know is to listen to music

I get angry a lot, but there is no technique that works for me. I just accept that Ill always be an angry person with some type of mental problem.

This is so healthy omg

I need help with my anger

i get so angry i think i could actually kill someone. i am really scared cause i actually lashed out on my first born granddaughter, that is the light of my life shes such a fabulous young lady. i can never forgive myself for acting in such a horrible horrible way. i have never took it upon myself to watch these videos til this incident..

Do u have a tik tok account? I think it'll be great if u can go live and teach this stuff. Its really good.

I've heard this from somewhere, helps me enormously "Anger is an Emotional punishment you give yourself for someone else's behavior "

Tank u so much

So, so good. Thank you

It’s so hard to be a safe space for someone if they are yelling and verbally attacking you.

This was so clear and extremely helpful. Thank you!

This will not help me in stopping someone from yelling and badgering us at the window while we are helping another patient. I need something to say to professionally shut them down so their frustration doesn't raise frustration levels in other patients.

Honestly my anger is killing me softly and I really hate myself when I finally come down 😢😢

Don't get mad at people for feeling things...

Woooowww this is just too good. So I knew this but the targeted person I was trying to explain this to said IM THE MANIPULATOR which if im not wrong that's considered reflective narcissism, but also the person who was boosting the target persons esteem kept convincing the target person that she doesnt need to be spoken to that way as if I was saying things wrong when in fact I was simply trying to open the target persons eyes. Now that target person is gone and believed and fell into that master manipulators lies and moved in with that person. How long do u think it will take before the targeted person finally opens their mind and realizes?

😂😂😂ITS THE HUNGRY PART FOR ME 🤦🏽‍♀️

This was so good🙌🏽 I needed it

WOW!!! SIR,, YOU ARE GREAT ... YOU NEED TO DO MORE VIDEOS ,, I AM A VETERAN ,, SOME PEOPLE PEE ME OFF.. DO A VIDEO ON DRIVING WITH STUPID PEOPLE ON THE ROAD DRIVING.. HA!! THANKS ,,DR.

Worked at a juvenile detention center and we had to do training like this. It was called motivational interviewing. If it's done well it does work. I went almost 2 years without getting punched which is the most amount of time anyone went without getting assaulted out of everyone who worked there

Absolutely superb. Great advice and more relevant than ever in these troubled times. I really enjoyed your advice, albeit I'm a few years late to the party! Outstanding, thank you.

Chris, Very good discussion 👌

Awesome video

I'm not sure this would work because in my experience some people start to really push your buttons when you show you're angry, it's like they see a weak spot or it's funny to them and they have to exploit it.Then of course you get angry and the first thing they do is call the cops and tell them they're scared.

your videos be so real sometimes thanks for the help

Instructions unclear, told the dude “no balls” and things occurred

.. cough.. i call BS Counselor take your money to tell you what u wnna hear 💯 🤧

Thank you Dr, in my case exposure treatment for the event in the past that distress me, help me to let go, its like a paradox, but in my case my friend apologize multiple times, i was obssesed and couldnt let it go..its like you say accepting and living in the present., focussing my attention in others and triying to help.

I get really aggrieved if someone drives badly or cuts me up etc... I've been a better driver over the last year or so so when I encounter a poor driver I say to myself "have I ever done something like that?". Usually the answer is yes which helps me to excuse their driving and carry on with my day... It still lingers in me for a while but I get over it without reacting.

How to not be dominant? I don't know how but always there's this ego which wants to be the best at everything, I myself laugh at it at happy times, but as soon as I hurt someone with my words, then that ego just disappears and I become overflown with guilt. Then I just start feel weak and alone. Why does this happen and how should we deal with it, if you can understand what I mean? Thanks for the vid btw.